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Hi!   I hope you're having a good weekend.   Today I'd like to quickly share one thing that used to hold me back a lot in life.   You see, when I was younger I rarely took action on anything that I wanted to change in my life. My go-to excuse was often that the timing was not right and that I needed to wait for some time a little later on or for things to be perfect before I took action.   Now, the timing might not be right for all things that you or I would like to do.   But for many things there is usually a way forward.   So today, just take 1 minute and ask yourself:   What have I been postponing or procrastinating on for some time now?    Maybe you want to start your own small business online or offline. Or you want to dive back into dating again or get back into better shape. Or maybe work on  your relationship with yourself .   Maybe you have a troubling situation in yo...

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by   HENRIK EDBERG “A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty.” Winston Churchill “Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.” Maria Robinson “We don’t see things as they are, we see them as we are.” Anais Nin One of the most common questions people ask me via email is  how to become more of an optimist . So this week I’d simply like to share three habits that can help you to get started with that. I use these myself just about every day to stay optimistic in pretty much any situation. It may sometimes take a while before I find an optimistic thread of thought but these three habits usually help me to do it. 1. Ask yourself questions that let you see the optimistic viewpoint. When I’m in what seems like a negative situation my most common way of making something better out of that is to ask myself questions that promote optimism and h...

I hope you're having a good weekend. This Sunday I'd like to just quickly share a thought that has become a habit for me and that helps me to deal with criticism in a better way.   It took me many years to start using this one but it has done wonders.   It is simply to think this to myself when I receive a piece of criticism:   Everyone has the right to their own opinion. And that is OK.   Now, this might seem obvious. But for the longest time I was honestly not OK with that.    I wanted to get everyone to my side, to persuade them to see it my way instead. I may have hid it but I often got upset that someone did not agree with me. And I took their certainty in that they had facts on their side - when it was in most cases just opinions - too seriously and questioned myself too often.   This doesn't mean that I don't listen. I can certainly learn from some of the things people tell me or email me about for example.  ...

21 Small Ways to Make Life Simpler by   HENRIK EDBERG “Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication.” Leonardo da Vinci “The aspects of things that are most important for us are hidden because of their simplicity and familiarity.” Ludwig Wittgenstein I love simplifying my life. It makes me more effective and life less stressful. It makes me calmer and happier. But where do you start? Or continue if you are already on your way? In this week’s article I’d like to share 21 small habits that help me to live a simpler life. Pick one of these to get started and keep doing it until it sticks and becomes just another normal part of your life. Breathe.  When stressed, lost in a problem or the past or future in your mind breathe with your belly for two minutes and just focus on the air going in and out. This will calm your body down and bring your mind back into the present moment again. Do one thing at a time.  You’ll get better results and feel better and less str...

BY    HENRIK EDBERG Can you improve your conversation skills? Certainly. It might take a while to change the conversation habits that’s been ingrained throughout your life, but it is very possible. To not make this article longer than necessary let’s just skip right to some common mistakes many of us have made in conversations and a couple of solutions.  Not listening Ernest Hemingway once said: “I like to listen. I have learned a great deal from listening carefully. Most people never listen.” Don’t be like most people. Don’t just wait eagerly for your turn to talk. Put your own ego on hold. Learn to really listen to what people actually are saying. When you start to really listen, you’ll pick up on loads of potential paths in the conversation. But avoid yes or no type of questions as they will not give you much information. If someone mentions that they went fishing with a couple of friends last weekend you can for instance ask: Where did you go f...

“A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty.” Winston Churchill Optimism. It can turn a situation that looks negative or bleak into an opportunity or something to learn from. It can replace the draining thoughts of pessimism with something that will give you more positive energy and enthusiasm again. And it can help you to jump over obstacles, to keep moving when you fall or stumble and to not give up just because you have had a couple of temporary setbacks. So not just adding more of it to your own life but to the lives of the people in your world too is a good idea. Because you tend to get back what you give in the long run. And in the short run, well, you get to enjoy the smiles when you spread that positive energy. Plus, you’ll  boost your own self-esteem  when you feel you are doing the right thing. Here are 10 simple tips that can help you to get started with that. 1. Just be...

How to Stop Procrastinating: 7 Timeless Tips by   HENRIK EDBERG Image by  tbondolfi  ( license ). “Tomorrow is often the busiest day of the week.” Spanish Proverb “How soon ‘not now’ becomes ‘never’.” Martin Luther “A year from now you may wish you had started today.” Karen Lamb One of the most common problems is procrastination. We know what we want to do and should do. But still we end up spending hours upon hours doing “easier” work or escaping via TV, blogs or music. Now, nothing wrong with a little escape from time to time. But if you procrastinate too much you will not get the most important things done. And you will also send yourself into negative spirals where your self-esteem plummets and you spend your days or more in a vague negative funk. So what can you do? Here are 7 timeless tips to help you to stop procrastinating and start living your life more fully. And if you want to then you can learn much more about becoming more productive, focu...

“Having a positive mental attitude is asking how something can be done rather than saying it can’t be done.” Bo Bennett “To avoid situations in which you might make mistakes may be the biggest mistake of all.” Peter McWilliams “We don’t see things as they are, we see them as we are.” Anais Nin One of the very first things I started to work on consciously with my own personal development was to improve my outlook on life. It was over 10 years ago that I started to delve into this topic and to step by step – and while sometimes tumbling backwards – build a more optimistic outlook. An attitude that would over time become more and more stable so that I could not only look at the world in a positive way during good days. But also so I could stay positive and constructive even during tough times and keep working towards something better. In this article I’d like to share 11 of the best, smartest and most effective habits for doing so that I have learned during over more...